Podcast Episode 423: It’s Not You, It’s Your Brain: The ADHD Burnout Bomb No One Talks About with Meredith Carder
Ever decided this was the week you’d finally get your life together? So you reorganize your fridge, download six productivity apps, color-code your Google Calendar, and vow to become “a morning person”-only to crash by Thursday, convinced you’re just lazy or broken? Yeah. Been there. Turns out, you might not be either… you might just have ADHD.
In this hilarious, wildly validating, and surprisingly emotional episode, ADHD coach and author Meredith Carder joins us to break down what’s really going on for women who feel like they’re barely keeping it together. Meredith is the creator behind @hummingbirdadhd on Instagram, a certified ADHD coach, and author of It All Makes Sense Now. She helps women ditch the shame, decode their brain wiring, and actually build a life that works for them-not against them. Also? She didn’t get diagnosed until adulthood, after her daughter’s evaluation made her realize… wait, this is me too.
We talk about how ADHD in women is often mislabeled as anxiety or perfectionism, why your emotional meltdowns and burnout are more than “just stress,” and the surprisingly sneaky ways your brain tricks you into chasing impossible routines that leave you feeling like a failure. It’s real, it’s raw, and it’s packed with aha moments that’ll have you laughing, crying, and screenshotting quotes to send to your best friend.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the noise in your head, crushed by the weight of invisible expectations, or stuck in a loop of trying harder but getting nowhere- this episode might just change the way you see yourself. Because it’s not you. It’s your brain. And once you understand that, everything shifts.
In this episode of the No Guilt Mom podcast you’ll learn:
- How ADHD often shows up in women and why many go undiagnosed until adulthood.
- Why what seems like anxiety might actually be undiagnosed ADHD
- What “optimization traps” are and how perfectionism sabotages progress for ADHD brains.
- Why self-compassion and community are critical tools in managing ADHD burnout.
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