Podcast Episode 396: “You Never Help with Bedtime!”: The Marriage Fight on Repeat (and how to fix it) with April Eldemire, LMFT
Ever find yourself wondering, “How is it that I’m the only one who knows when the dishwasher needs to be emptied, the kids need a bath, or bedtime isn’t happening magically on its own?” If it feels like you’re carrying the full weight of running your home and parenting while your partner somehow stays blissfully unaware—this episode is going to hit home. That recurring fight about who does what (especially around bedtime) isn’t just draining—it chips away at your connection and leaves you feeling isolated, even when you’re technically “in this together.”
Our guest this week, April Eldemire, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, a stepfamily expert, and founder of Couples Thrive. She’s spent years helping couples who feel emotionally disconnected, stuck in power struggles, or just totally misaligned. She gets it—how easy it is to slip into a routine where you feel more like frustrated roommates than romantic partners, especially when you’re juggling the never-ending to-do list of motherhood.
In this conversation, April offers a refreshing perspective: it’s not that your relationship is broken—it’s just out of alignment. And instead of blaming or bottling things up until they explode (sound familiar?), she walks us through a powerful four-step ritual designed to help couples reconnect, communicate clearly, and actually feel like a team again. It’s simple, it’s doable, and honestly—it might be the thing that keeps you from snapping the next time you’re left solo wrangling bedtime chaos.
So if you’re tired of saying “You never help with bedtime!” and ready to stop doing everything yourself, this episode is your permission slip to stop white-knuckling your way through marriage. You don’t have to carry the load alone—and you deserve to feel supported, seen, and heard.
In this episode of the No Guilt Mom podcast you’ll learn:
- Why feeling like you “do it all” in your marriage isn’t about love—it’s about misalignment.
- What the 4-part “alignment ritual” is and how it transforms resentment into teamwork.
- The difference between helpful guilt and harmful guilt—and how that affects how you show up.
- Why emotional safety is essential for connection, especially when you’re exhausted and touched out.
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