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Podcast Episode 301: Swipe Right for Safety: A Guide to Instagram’s New Teen Accounts Transcripts

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Welcome to the No Guilt Mom podcast. I am your host JoAnn Crohn joined here by the lovely Brie Tucker. 

Why hello hello everybody how are you?

Today we have something really exciting for you. Instagram just announced a brand new feature called Teen Accounts and Brie and I were invited to New York City for this launch which we were, my gosh, when we got this email, we were like, I was honestly running back and forth.

in my house because I had so much energy and was so excited and I know you were doing the same too, Brie.

gosh and it was a whirlwind event like we went out Monday morning got to adjust to east coast time which is always fun when coming from the west coast trying to get yourself to sleep at seven o ‘clock at night because it’s ten o ‘clock on the east coast but

Yeah. Well, I had a little trick for that. A little trick in our scheduling that, you know, I.

I know girl got me up at 3 a three Sorry, let me be fair 345 a But still

I purposefully requested a 6am flight out of Phoenix because I mean that’s the best way to adjust to East Coast. You have to get up early where you are and then you can go. No. yeah, so I can adjust the time better. It’s like a head start.

Okay, I thought you did that just because that was you. Like every time we travel, you take the 6 a Okay. God, it’s always gonna be like, I always get a coffee the day before just to prep for traveling with JoAnn, but it was fun. I got to experience so many new things on that trip. The Delta Sky Lounge.

my gosh.

yeah, it’s Skylouge.

a New York City in a whirlwind. Like we were right next to Madison Square Garden. I hadn’t been to New York since I was 18. So it was fun. It was so much fun. And honestly, the event and Instagram and all the people, phenomenal.

Phenomenal, phenomenal. We got to see the inside of Metta. The office is there, which I’m like, I’m telling everyone I’m like, go, go tell your kids a Fort Knox. Yes. And go tell your kids to get a job at Metta because they will be fed for life. Like all the food they had there for employees. And it was like really good food. Like I saw people eating like roasted chicken and veggies. And I was like, my gosh, I want to work here just for the food.

Fort Knox, AKA Fort Knox.

was going to say, like, I love how you’re saying, like, pick your career based on what they have available in the cafeteria.

That’s pretty much my life.

Quality of life. I will give you that for sure that that is a big chunk because you’re spending a lot of time at work Let’s just be honest. Let’s just be honest

Yeah.

Yeah. So while we were at the event, which we are going to give you more details about at the end, so make sure that you stay until the end of the podcast. We got the chance to interview Naomi Gleit and Naomi Gleit is the head of product at Meta, formerly Facebook. She leads the team building products and tools that work across our technologies. And Naomi also oversees the growth team, integrity team and the social impact.

She was one of the company’s first employees and has worked on almost every major initiative in its history, including most recently the COVID -19 Information Center and the Voting Information Center. She was a founding member and leader of the growth team that helped the Facebook app grow from 1 million people when she joined 16 years ago to over 3 billion today.

Naomi graduated from Stanford with a degree in science, technology and society. She wrote her thesis on Facebook. She’s now on the board of the primary school serving children and their families in East Palo Alto and originally from Brooklyn, New York. She now lives in New York City. And Naomi was such a joy to sit down with and talk with. And so she’s gonna give you all of the info on this new feature on Instagram these teenage accounts.

So we hope you enjoy our interview with Naomi.

INTRO MUSIC

So Naomi, you have nieces and nephews. How old are they? So they are not old enough.

to use teen accounts, they are six and eight. So we have a few years to go, yeah, I obviously this is something that I think every parent is thinking about even if their kids are not yet of age. definitely. Yeah. I mean, I so I have an 11 year old son and I have a 15 year old daughter. Okay. And as soon as we came out here, of course, I wasn’t allowed to tell her, but I was able to.

a little bit this morning after the announcement was made. And she had a lot of questions actually about the teen accounts. She’s 15. She’s 15. So one of the things that teens do is that they have a public facing account where they have this public image they put forth. And then they have a spam account, which lets them show like their true self and that they heavily moderate. So I was wondering like, at like if any thought

went into those accounts when you were creating the teen accounts for Instagram? Yes, so we definitely hear that teens are very creative. They have multiple accounts. Sometimes they don’t put their accurate age on their account. so backing up our goal is to have everyone that’s a teen and every account that they use in the protected settings of teen accounts. And there are a few things that we’re going to do to

make sure that happens. The first is if a teen tries to lie about their age, we’re going to ask them to verify their age. So if they try to change their birthday or if they try to start a new account as an adult, then we will ask them to either take a video selfie or submit a government ID to try to prove their age. I love this. The teens are going to get carted. Finally.

It is something that they dream of. And like when they complain, I’m going to be like, come on, trust me, when you are 21, you’re going to be like, it’s going to be fantastic. Exactly. So they have to take a video selfie and then provide some form of identification. Like I’m thinking school ID, that sort of thing. Well, not every teen has an ID. That’s why we offer this video selfie tool. We work with the third party. They will take a video of your face and try to…

estimate based on your facial features, the age, this is a alternative to teens that might not have a driver’s license. awesome. I’m actually very familiar with this video selfie tool as I have used it to get back my account when it was hacked to prove that it was me. So how are just explaining it from your point of view as head of product, how are these teen accounts going to be different than the accounts that teens have access to right now?

So teen accounts is going to put all teens into the most safe, strictest, protective settings. And that is going to limit who can contact them, the content that they can see, and the time that they spend on Instagram. The biggest difference here is that if you’re under 16, you’re going to need to get your parents’ permission to change these settings. so I really like this because I think it’s going to incentivize teens, like your 15 -year -old, who may want to have

a different setting around content or contact or have different time limits to actually ask for parental supervision and involve you in their Instagram experience. It sounds like you guys have really thought through this plan. I’m curious, how long has this been in the works? We’re kind of a timeline with this project. So we’ve definitely been working on these features and tools that we give to teens and to their parents for a very long time, many years, but the specific teen accounts concept

We’ve been working on for many months. Obviously, we’ve been talking to parents for as long as I can remember. And they’ve really been the input into the design of teen accounts. And I think part of why it has been really thoughtful is that we’re really listening to parents because we think they know best. They do know their teens very, very well. So with the ages involved, what age will the teen be that they’re put into this private account? Like, what’s the upper limit?

So 13 to 15 year olds will be, well first everyone under 18 will be put into teen accounts. 13 to 15 year olds will have to ask their parents for permission to change any settings. And we did that because we’ve heard that there’s a difference between early teens, 13 to 15 year olds, and late teens or older teens, which are 16 and 17. And intuitively that makes sense that 13 year old who’s on Instagram for the first time, we don’t allow kids that are under 13 onto Instagram.

is very different than a 17 year old who might be going to college. yeah, yeah. So the 13 and 15 year old will have to ask parent permission, but up to 18, they can really monitor their own settings and change those? Yep. So 16 and 17 year olds, we think that they may require less parental involvement. They have been online, you know, they can navigate as they wish and have more autonomy. But

If parents feel like they’re 16 and 17 year old, they still want them to be under parent supervision, they have that option too. Got it. One question that we had about parents who live in two separate houses and parental supervision. How many parents can supervise a teen account? Does it have to be one or the other? Can both have access? Right now, it’s only one parent.

We definitely understand everyone has different family structures, not everyone has a parent. Sometimes you have a guardian. And so we’re working on making sure that teen accounts and parent supervision can support those different situations. As you said, every teen is different, but right now it’s one parent or guardian. Okay. And then what has been like your early feedback from teens about the new app and the layout? So we definitely talked to parents, but we also talked to teens. Teens,

look, they love Instagram and what makes them love Instagram is that they come, express themselves, they see content that they’re interested in, they connect with friends and so we wanna give them more of that. I think they’re gonna be really excited about interests. Interests less than pick topics that they can see on their explore page and in feed. We worked on the topics with parents and teens. They’re fun things like animals, hobbies, art, cooking.

making dinner or whatever it is and then they can see an entire explore page about this and my feedback so far has been that adults want it too. That’s what I was going to ask. That was my exact thing. like Nudge and JoAnn. yes yes. I I felt felt seen here because there were other people that had like dogs all over their account. What’s favorite IG account? Pammy and Olivia shout out.

you have it? they’re the best Chonk Fest is coming on too. Yes. Yeah, it’s fantastic. But that was going to be my next question was, when is that feature going to be available for everybody on Instagram where I can just type in dogs and then my For You page is nothing but dogs? Well, right now, Teen Accounts is really focused on getting teens to see age -appropriate experience. That’s why we’re starting with teens. We think this feature would

will help in addition to all of the restrictions around what kind of content they can see and making sure that it’s intended for, you know, it’s appropriate for that age for a teen, we want them to get first access. I’m very interested because like my teen like actually shows me all the trends that’s going on and she’s the one who introduces me to new stuff. having the teens have first access is like the best thing there could be.

Have you gone into it all, like what the schools do with these accounts? Because for instance, like my daughter’s in high school. Every class in the high school has their own IG account. Every club has their own IG account. And she goes and she follows like all of these. So how will accounts like that be affected? So accounts, it depends on who is the actual like.

owner of the account. If it is a school administrator, then that account won’t need to be in a teen account. If it is, a class president, then that account will be. So it really is going to be tied to who’s the primary owner of the account and based on their age, whether or not it needs to be in a safe, protected teen account. So you mentioned before that a lot of teens were consulted, too, on the development of this app. In terms of the experts, like what

kind of experts did you bring in when you were trying to decide what features this app should have? Yeah. So a lot of the experts were actually in the room today. We had Yvonne Johnson. She was the head of PTA. She’s been doing a lot of these, what we call Screen Smart events with parents. Dr. Aliza Presman, she was on a panel. She’s a child psychologist. I’m also doing a salon with her later today. She’s wonderful. She’s been on the podcast. she has? Yeah. Yeah. yeah. She’s awesome. She’s awesome.

One of the things she said today, I think Ava was saying this to her, is I know that I’m gonna have a lot of new conversations that are good with my team. Tell me what to say. So a few people today have been asking for some tactical guidance on how to conduct some of these conversations with their kids. And I think someone like Dr. Pressman would really be the right person to help advise there.

yeah, definitely. Like we at No -Gilt Mom, we’re all about the open communication. We actually teach our parents communication skills and how to really question and figure out what our kids want. And I think that’s so important in terms of social media. One thing that I can see that these new features are going to do is that they’ll figure, like parents will figure out what to ask about. For example, the feature that lets parents see who their kids are DMing with.

This was actually the biggest sticking point for my daughter. She’s like, well, these aren’t going to affect me because we have these conversations at home. But she’s like, my friends are not going to want to see, like not going to want their parents to see who they’re talking with. So we need to find the right balance there. And we are going to show your parents who you’re talking with, but we won’t show your parents what you’re saying. Yes. And so we need to strike the right balance. Well, I do think that that’s actually, that was one of my favorite.

parts about this because early on, so my kids are 16 and 17. So between the two of us, yeah. So between the two of us, we have the gamut that this is going to be affecting in different layers, we’ll say. But when my daughter first started on social media, TikTok was an account that I was in charge of with her. So we’re divorced household too. So she really went Instagram. I’m like, okay, dad, you’re on Instagram. I’ll take TikTok.

And I remember because we were sharing that account, at one point I went in to see where she was at for messaging over. It had been like a day or two since I checked and there was some random person in there messaging my 13 year old daughter. And I just remember being, I felt so violated, so upset and trying to have that conversation with her was hard because she didn’t understand why it was wrong. She’s like, what? It’s probably just another kid. And I’m like, no, clearly from what this person said, is not.

So, I just remember that being one of those, crap moments for me. seeing this coming in for Instagram, it made me feel so much more secure and cozy about it. I was like, this would make me feel so much better because again, I might not be able to see what the conversation is, but at least knowing that that’s a name that I don’t know, it brings us into the conversation because that’s something we’re big about here at No Guilt Mom. You can’t hide from screens, technology, social media. It’s here.

It’s not going anywhere. So the best way to do that is through education and being a part of it. Yes. So I feel like this makes it a really good tool to continue to have that conversation. And honestly, that was the number one concern that we heard from parents is this unwanted contact. It’s someone that you don’t know or that’s kind of sketchy, potentially messaging your teen. And so so much of teen accounts, in addition to the feature where you can see who your teen is messaging, is really geared around preventing.

Yeah, that’s why teens are now required to have private accounts. That’s why only people that teens follow or are already connected to will be able to message them. That’s why only people they follow can tag and mention them. It really reduces the amount of interaction or contact that teens can get from people they don’t want to talk to. Yeah. Now, teens could follow any public accounts that they desire, right? Yes. So if parents, they put on these parent supervisions and maybe they’re having a little bit of trouble.

with the app or like figuring it out. Where do you recommend parents go to get more help with it? That’s a great question. I think a lot of the experts that we’ve been talking to, especially in the development of teen accounts are now also experts in teen accounts. And so I hope that people like Dr. Pressman, Dr. Bakke, we have several, you know, child psychologists or people that work in socio -emotional health organizations, like we had an Academy for Pediatrics representative on the panel earlier today.

we’ll be able to provide some of that advice. Also, Instagram is putting a lot of guidance, resources for teens and parents that we’re starting to roll out. One of our biggest goals with this launch is that parents understand what’s going on. Parents and teens need to understand because it’s such a big change, we’re starting to roll it out, but it’s gonna take us probably two months to complete the transition of all the existing teens.

accounts into the new teen accounts. And so our goal is really comprehension here. Which is actually kind of amazing because two months is a very, very fast time, would imagine, for all of those accounts to be transferred over. my gosh, for the number of accounts is insane. Yeah, tens of millions of accounts will be transferred. It is insane. So this is something that we ask everybody on the No Get Long podcast. What is something coming up that you are looking forward to?

Well, to our earlier question, I want an explore page of dogs. So I am looking forward to bringing on the dogs. More dogs, cats, funny videos. And now I’m looking forward to seeing the Chonk Instagram account that you mentioned. And that is, is Hammy and Olivia, which you guys are listening. Love to have you on the podcast. What kind of breed is Hammy and Olivia?

corgi. I don’t have a corgi, I have decided that I was either a corgi in another life or I am am destined to own a corgi. corgis were not as cute as as as these ones. So I agree with that. You need to have me in Olivia. Yeah. Well, thank you so much.

Okay, I’m going to steal this from the event today. What is your favorite Instagram account? So I’ll give everybody a moment to think. I already shared mine. Okay. Right now I’m obsessed with Under the Desk News. yeah. It’s run by, she runs it like a journalist, but she’s political. And she comes in with an insight about what exactly is going on in politics, but like at a deeper level. And it’s just amazing.

Well, that inspired me. I don’t know if you guys know Moshe Nounou. He runs a Instagram account called Moshe News, Moshe -O -S -H -E -H. And the reason that I like his account is that it is all stories. I can get all the news I need in a very Instagram friendly or Instagram first format. I can just click through the stories, but also I saw him at the event today.

I must be fun at these events. You get to see all the influencers that you follow. That’s spectacular. Well, thank you so much, Naomi, for talking with us and answering our questions. And we’re so excited for this app. And I look forward for everyone to be using it. Thank you, guys. 

So I was really excited to tell my daughter, who’s 15, about these new teen accounts because I wanted her opinion so badly. She actually wrote a research project on things that social media companies can do better for kids. Like this was her project for her AP, gosh, what was it called? It was AP seminar class. And she got a five on that AP, by the way, just like other things. My daughter’s like, consistently impresses me.

She wrote her research project on this and she said that they incorporated a lot of the things that she suggested they do as soon as she found out about like what the teenage accounts entailed when I was talking with her last night. Yeah, but and then she felt well, she followed up with a typical teenage response. Well, I only put those because I knew they would make parents happy and not teenagers happy. I’m like, okay.

That’s cool. Okay, so what were they?

Well, okay, let’s just be honest for one second. Most of the things that teenagers want that will make them happy are not things that are good for them in the long run. So, so we get it, we get it. Like, let’s just take school as a big one there. I mean, quite honestly, if you were to ask my daughter, she’d be like, you know, let’s just abolish school and just let us like all just, you know, I just wanna get paid for my time.

Thank

Yeah, they are not. They’re not.

I have to volunteer my time at school is what she says. And I’m like, yeah, you still need school. Sorry. So I digress, go on.

I know.

You still have to go. well, with these teen accounts, Instagram wanted to address the three main concerns of parents, which was who their teens are contacting, the content that the teens see and the amount of time that teens spend on social media. So the first part, the contact, I was talking with her about like the DMs, like only people that teens follow can contact them.

Yup and yup.

as well as if the teens are under 16 and have parent supervision on their account, their parents will be able to see exactly who they’re talking with, but not necessarily what they’re saying. And she’s like, I know a lot of my friends are not gonna be happy with this. They do not want their parents to see who they’re talking to. So that was her first main concern.

Okay, but wait, but let me play devil’s advocate on that.

yeah, please. mean, she’s a teenager. Of course we need to play devil’s advocate with this reasoning.

Right? Well, here’s what I would say. I would say to that. I hear you on that. I understand. And to some degree, that kind of feels like an invasion of privacy. However, it sounds to me like they did at least think forward to that one because they could have given parents complete access to all of your messages, but they didn’t. All they gave them was access to see who you’re talking to. So they did respect that what honestly, when you look at it, what is the bigger piece of the privacy pie there?

Absolutely. That was actually one of the questions my husband had to like, you know, we just got back last night when we’re recording this episode, and we were talking about it this morning. And he’s like, Yeah, well, like they need to be a little less restrictive and like maybe like other apps, how they just see who they’re talking to. And I’m like, that’s exactly what they’re doing. They can’t see like, all the details of the conversation, they, they won’t be able to see exactly what posts you’re liking or what unless they follow you go follow your teens, by the way.

So, yeah.

Yeah.

That really is a good, that is a good rule of thumb. Follow your teens on social media. Yeah.

What posts they’re liking your? Yes, go follow your teens. Yeah, but they I mean, parents won’t be able to see that they only get to see the high level stuff like what are the topics that they’re most engaged with? Who are the people they’re talking to that sort of stuff? So it really does keep the teens privacy in check. What?

Yeah, yeah.

What surprised me about being in that room? And it was just because first of all, think that you and Ivory were in a very unique position where we use social media and the apps every single day, every single day. Like it, well, it’s a work requirement.

We do. Right, I’m saying because I’ll be honest, it kind of takes some of the fun out of it when you got to do it for work, right? There’s times where I look at those apps and I’m like, God, I don’t want to open it today.

It does sometimes. It’s a work requirement. So it’s like

Well, I like I do know the ins and outs of those apps really well, because I’m very, very familiar with it. We also our whole career is really about communicating with kids and talking with them and how to communicate with them. And so from my viewpoint, a lot of these

settings that they put in place in Instagram, I was like, but why? Why don’t like, why do we need all these things? Not realizing this was my introspective moment, how much experience I have and trying to talk with my daughter and knowing the things going on with her life and how to like facilitate that relationship better. Like it’s a skill set that not everyone has because it’s not really like a pop.

not popular, but it’s not really a general thing that people are taught how to do. It’s something that we know how to do because this what we do.

Do it.

think that’s a really good point. And I think it was hammered in at the event that we were at because there was a couple of things that they had going on. But one of the things that we saw, they had a panel in there of a multitude of different people from across the board. had two teens that are part of the American Academy of Pediatrics, a teen advisory council. Yeah.

Advisory board. Yeah, which is so cool Yeah

I know, right? And then they had like a pediatrician there. They had the head of the bullying division at Metta, think was his role. And then they…

Can I just say the parent, the dad of one of the teens on the advisory board sat right next to me in the audience and he was so proud of his daughter. He was like filming her. my gosh. It was so amazing to see that. It just made my heart feel so much.

was sitting next to you. Yeah.

He was such a proud tot, daddy.

and

Right. And they also had the head of the PTA, the national PTA organization there. But the interesting part that I’m just going to kind of like that hammers in what you just said, both of the teens that were on the advisory panel that were there talking said that at least one of their parents did not really use social media or all the apps on social media that the teens were interested in using. that parent

Mm

just took a backseat and didn’t really do anything, didn’t really know anything. And I think that that was an aha moment for me. Cause I’m like, really? There’s that many people that still aren’t on social media. But then when I thought about it some more, like even my one of my sisters, well, both of my sisters, neither of them are all, I would say the big three, neither of them are on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok. I’m leaving out the old bird app because I’m still pissed off at the person who runs the old bird app.

The old burda, it doesn’t exist anymore. It doesn’t exist anymore. We don’t even talk about it. No.

So I don’t even count that one anymore. But the point being is, yeah, so I think that there are a lot more people, like you just said, that aren’t on the apps, don’t know the ins and outs, and it’s really hard to help guide and support your child when you have no idea what you’re stepping into.

Yeah. And I find there’s a lot of fear out there because like of the, the, the experience they don’t have yet, because you hear all these things in the media about how all this screen time is horrible for kids. And if you don’t know it, if you don’t know how to use it yourself, yeah, it’s going to be a really, really scary thing. So I understand. And like these teen accounts that they put is a really, really great thing for parents because it helps make the whole process easier to manage.

Mm

I agree.

Another aside about the panel is the same teen who was talking about it. She’s like, yeah, my mom doesn’t really use it. And then my dad is in national security. And I like whip my head around and I’m like, what now?

She’s like, so he’s like super like, let’s be thoughtful of everything we put online kind of side. It’s amazing the people you just randomly run into. Again, he just had that beaming proud dad persona. I would have thought he was an insurance agent or something.

No, he was so cute. And so yeah, was so wonderful. He was so wonderful. But yeah, so that the contact thing is really big. The content thing is cool. One thing that we were saying over and over again is like teens get to now pick like the topics they follow on Instagram and how want that? All the dogs. Yeah.

Yes, I want that. Yeah.

I did ask her while we were interviewing Naomi, like, when’s gonna be available for adults? Because, I mean, they even acknowledged it, like, everybody. And when they set it up, the event, everybody was like…

JoAnn (09:00)

Mm Yeah, everybody’s like that.

Brie Tucker (09:01)

So yeah, yeah, like it would be really, really cool. So I also think an interesting point of this is that you and I are in a unique point as well because we both have teens that are gonna be affected by this. And what I mean by that is they’re currently on Instagram and their Instagram account is going to change into this teen set up at different levels because we have different ages. And I think that also gives us a unique perspective.

Mm

of how teens are going to react to the changes.

Yeah, I think it does. Because if we covered this in the interview, I don’t think we did. But what’s going to happen is that the teens are going to get a notification on their app that they’ve been switched to a teen account. And that’s if they were honest about their age from the get -go. If they’re not honest about their age, Instagram is working on some technology to look for little markers that show that, this is a teen using this account, looking at like, OK, what age of?

people are they following? Who are they interacting with those sort of things and then transition those teens into a teen account, which Naomi said would happen in the next two months, which I think is incredibly fast for how many accounts they have to deal with. And me knowing exactly how many teens have lied about their age. There’s a lot like they’re going to be busy. They’re going to be busy. Yes. So it

They’re gonna be busy. They’re gonna be busy.

It’s so exciting. So exciting. We also got sent home a gift bag with us. 

I unpacked this gift bag with my daughter and I think she claimed about 90 % of the items in the gift bag.

Okay, so she claimed half of it, all of it.

which I thought you said hat, and I thought that was the weirdest thing. I’m like, why did they put a hat?

didn’t know much about hatches, but apparently as soon as I brought it out, my daughter gets this like, like this wide look. my gosh. I don’t even know. It’s a, a ball. It’s a, it simulates sunlight, right? It simulates sunlight. has nature sounds. has, I really haven’t gotten a chance because she’s like, that was on my Christmas list. 

She has a really hard time waking up for school. she was, cause she’s able to ignore her alarm. Like her alarm could be going off for an hour. She will not hear the thing. My husband could do the same thing. Yeah. She will not hear her alarm, but she claimed that there was a gift bag just for teens in there. And she, pulled out the phone charm and the phone charms already on her phone. She thinks it’s super cute. She really loves it.

I cannot do that. I can hit snooze 16 times. I’m pretty talented at that.

And then there was an Octo, which yeah, there’s everything in there. Teens, she’s very excited about everything in there. So they got it right.

So let her know that, so we would be like, okay, this is your parting gift from Instagram. This is there, we’re sorry that things are changing. But I do wanna say, like we already talked about that, I think that these changes are for the good. So like my daughter is 16 and my son, I think has an Instagram account, but I don’t think he does anything with it. So it’s like there, but not used. So he’s out of the conversation.

They are.

He’s 17, but I’m not even going to talk about him. I’m going to talk about 16 year old daughter. So she’s going to be upset when it gets changed because they’re going to go over to all the like really, it’s going to go down to like the most secure settings on the account, which I think are brilliant. I think it’s great. And I think for your team that is starting out in Instagram, this is going to be fantastic. The only bumpy road are for those of us that already had a teen on Instagram. That’s going to have to change. And it’s going to be for those older teens like the, I think 14 and up are going to be.

a little pissy, but yes, yeah, yeah. So like they might get a little mad about it, but I mean, again, it really is for the better and it really does help. So what I would say is if your teen gets upset and you like the changes, but your teen is fighting them, all I’m going to ask is that you just sit down and you have the conversation about it. Let’s just talk about it.

Parents have complete control. So if as a parent you want to change it you have the complete control

Mm

I’m not saying that you have to keep all these settings in place, but I’m also saying that I’m not going to rip them all off right away. Let’s talk about why you want them not there, and I’m going to talk about why I do want them there.

And going in without an agenda is so helpful. Like be really curious because your team might be doing some stuff on Instagram that’s actually really cool. Like it’s not bad at all. And they have very good reasoning for wanting the things they want. Yeah.

Right!

and legitimately listen. Yeah, come in and legitimately be curious, legitimately listen, and it’ll be a much smoother process. In my case, since my daughter’s 16, they’re gonna go in and make the changes, but she’s gonna be able to change them without me. But we’re still gonna have a conversation about this, because I’m gonna catch her before she goes to bed today. And we’ll talk about it. But I know, right? I’m just gonna be like, all right.

Just bring the gifts with you. Bring the gifts with you.

I’ll talk, I’ll get her upset and then I’ll be like, listen, I want you to know that Instagram bought this for you, just for you.

And I even have the cute girls hit curbs pin I’m gonna put in there. Be like, it’s all, look, see, I told them all about you and they customized this bag for you. She doesn’t know any different, she shouldn’t listen to the podcast. I’m sneaky. So sneaky. But yeah, so this is good.

That’s hilarious. So sneaky, so sneaky. Yeah, so this is it’s a really big Instagram is doing like check it out. As soon as I get access to it as soon as my daughter does I will record a tutorial for everybody on how to work those parental permissions and how to make sure that like all of those are locked down the way you want them locked down.

Yeah, and you know what? Leave us a review. We would love to hear your feedback after listening to this episode. What do you think of the new changes for the teen accounts on Instagram? What was your experience? What did your teen think of it? Leave us a review and tell us what your thoughts, because we would love to hear more about this.

Definitely. And remember the best mom is a happy mom. Take care of you. We’ll talk to you later.

Thanks for stopping by.

Brie Tucker

COO/ Podcast Producer at No Guilt Mom
Brie Tucker has over 20 years of experience coaching parents with a background in early childhood and special needs. She holds a B.S. in Psychology from the University of Central Missouri and is certified in Positive Discipline as well as a Happiest Baby Educator.

She’s a divorced mom to two teenagers.

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