Podcast Episode 385: Spouse Resentment: Why You’re Feeling It & What to Do
Ever fantasize about vanishing into a quiet hotel room with room service and zero responsibilities while your family wonders how the dishwasher works? If you’re nodding and clutching your iced coffee like it’s a life raft, you might be dealing with Spouse Resentment—and friend, you’re not the only one.
Summer sounds relaxing in theory. But for moms? It often means juggling everyone’s schedules, planning meals for kids who eat like trash compactors, organizing last-minute doctor appointments, cleaning up after everyone, and somehow being expected to smile through it all like a Pinterest board come to life. Meanwhile, your partner’s routine? Looks suspiciously unchanged. Cue the eye twitch.
This isn’t about bashing anyone’s significant other. It’s about naming what’s really going on beneath the surface: an unequal division of emotional and physical labor, made worse when you’re “the flexible one.” That invisible workload builds up, day by day, until the resentment comes crashing in hot. And we’ve all been there—whether it’s seething over unwashed dishes, dealing with the “I didn’t know the kids had soccer” excuse, or trying not to explode after hearing “you’re just better at that stuff.”
But here’s the truth: that resentment is a signal, not a failure. It’s your brain’s way of saying something isn’t working. And in this episode, you’ll learn what that frustration is really trying to tell you, how to talk about it without turning your kitchen into a battlefield, and why claiming personal space (without guilt) might be the best thing you do this summer.
You’ll also hear relatable stories (yes, even a hilarious green pepper showdown), surprising insights from the “man side” of things, and actionable advice that will make you feel seen, validated, and empowered. Because navigating Spouse Resentment doesn’t mean doing more—it means shifting the load, reclaiming your peace, and giving yourself the support you’ve been dishing out to everyone else.
So if you’re ready to stop stewing in silence and start making changes that actually stick, this episode is exactly what you need. Trust us—you’ll feel better before the outro even hits.
In this episode of the No Guilt Mom podcast you’ll learn:
- Why resentment is a signal- Not a flaw
- How summer break often brings an uneven division of tasks at home & what you can do about it
- Practical strategies to replace blame with connection and collaboration
- How claiming guilt-free personal time brings you emotional well-being and avoids burnout
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