Why You’re Still Carrying Everything (And How to Hand It Back)

If you’ve ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you keep doing everything yourself, even when you’re exhausted, this episode is for you.

You’re not tired from the tasks on your plate. You’re tired from the parts of the job nobody can see: the noticing before and the checking after. In this episode, I share the research behind that invisible work, a few of my own stories (including moments where I got it wrong), and a simple way to hand over the whole job, not just one more task.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why the heaviest part of your load is the part nobody can see
• The four stages of every household job and which ones moms tend to hold
• What I call the default loop, and why it keeps you doing it all
• Why taking a job back costs you more than it saves (my holiday gift-wrapping story)
• How to hand over the whole job this week, and why their frustration is part of the learning

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• The Happy Home Ladder: a cooperative family game that does the asking for you
• No Guilt Mom Inner Circle
• The Best Mom is a Happy Mom
• Tell me which job you’re handing off: @noguiltmom on Instagram

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