A “D” in Science. My 7th-grade son had a “D” in Science!
This was out of character for him because Science is his favorite subject.
It took me by surprise.
My daughter was in first grade at the time. She had just started to read books longer than simple sight word readers.
As she struggled through a particularly difficult part, her eyes filled with tears and she threw the book down.
“I CAN’T DO IT! I’M NEVER GOING TO READ!”
She ran to the couch and buried her head in the cushions,
“Sweetie! It’s OK”
“NO! I’m just not good at it. I can’t do it. I’m stupid.”
Oh, you know how that makes your heart sink as a parent.
And she refused to try. I asked her to look at it again and she wouldn’t.
To help end the mommy wars, I plan to keep creating an honest conversation through Whimsicle where as long as children are healthy and loved, all parents’ opinions will be respected. No name calling. No shame. Only support and lifting up. Go to the Similac Facebook page and share the one thing you will do to help end the mommy wars. Parenting is stressful today. Every time you pop online there are a thousand Facebook posts, blog posts and Pinterest pins telling you how you should do things differently as a parent. Everyone has an opinion from breastfeeding to bottle feeding, cloth diapers to disposable, circumcision vs. non-circumcision. There was a moment in each of my pregnancies where I hoped that the baby growing in my belly would be a girl and not a boy – for no reason other than if it was a girl, I wouldn’t have to make the decision about circumcising. It terrified me to go against the norm of all the other men in our family and not circumcise. But it also terrified me to have my newborn son get a part of himself cut off. When we found out our second child was a boy, I attempted to calm myself down by saying, “JoAnn. Millions of boys are circumcised. It’s just something that has to be done. The procedure will be quick. Get over it.” Then I did what crazy, anxiety-filled me does in times of panic. I turned to my very rational husband who I knew would calm me down about this medical procedure. “I don’t think we should have him circumcised,” he replied. “Wait, WHAT?!? But everyone else is circumcised.” “I just think its an unnecessary surgery,” he responded Hubby did not help calm my fears at all. At that time, I was stuck between two contrasting positions. One of the majority of US society that you should circumcise a newborn boy and the other of my husband who thinks not. Seriously, this was one of the most stressful parenting decisions I’ve ever made. I wanted my child to be healthy. I wanted to make the right and responsible decision. I didn’t want people to judge me. However, the last statement is an impossible wish, because either way I was going to be judged by someone. So I read everything I could about circumcision. The articles pro-circumcision, the anti-circumcision and everything in between. I had four major concerns: But isn’t everyone circumcised? I found out NO. Where in the US about 75% of men are circumcised, only 8.5% of men in the U.K. are. Circumcision is not a common procedure in Europe unless your religion practices it. Won’t he get laughed at in the locker room? Yes, teenage boys can be jerks. But, first, boys behave a little different than girls. As my husband puts it, if other guys want to harass you, they are going to find a way. Foreskin or not, junior high can be a miserable place Plus, the rates […]
I am so honored to have my friend Jodie back again in this guest post! Read on to see how she’s coping with a back injury while caring for her two-year-old daughter. On bed rest from surgery or an injury? Here are 10 activities that you and your toddler can enjoy while sitting or laying down. However you spend your time, just remember that the activity isn’t nearly as important to your toddler as the quality time you spend together. (For coping strategies while on bed rest, check out Bed Rest and Caring for Toddlers: 5 Coping Strategies.) 1. Read books This is a great opportunity to read those books that are just a little too long for bedtime. Take this time to experiment with reading in different voices or making up chants to go along with the words. Point out different aspects of the pictures, and ask your toddlers questions as you go. 2. Indoor picnic On the bed or floor, make meals or snacks more fun! It’s a great way to sneak in some extra together time. If you’re worried about crumbs or messy food, just lay out a big towel or tray. Some quick and easy ideas for snacks that won’t leave you sleeping in crumbs are fruit—especially durable ones like apples and grapes—peanut butter, hummus, cubed pieces of cheese or tofu, and frozen veggies. 3. Make a fort For us, this involves nothing more than ducking in and out of the sheets, using our “whisper” voices to tell secrets when we duck below, and our loud voices when we come back out. Add a flashlight and books for extra fun! You can also use a tower of large Lego blocks (see item 8!) or a hanger to support the middle of the fort. 4. X Marks the Spot/Going on a Treasure Hunt Both of these involve chanting lines while tracing patterns on your toddler’s back. There are many versions online (I do my own modified version that involves ice cream and cake). It gives her the goose bumps, and she loves it! We can sit for a long time doing this. Not only is it an activity we can share, but it also helps her relax. 5. How can we use our fingers and toes? Toddlers are still at the stage where they are discovering the parts of their body and how they work. As she falls asleep, I have watched my daughter “practicing” putting up one, two, then three fingers over and over again. Quiz your toddler on the parts of her body (the elbow is a current favorite). Depending on your family, make sure to ask in different languages. We use Spanish and a little bit of Yiddish to keep it interesting. We also do silly things like a routine where I press my nose and throat gently and pull my ears, all of which make my tongue stick out and move in different directions. She loves to try and replicate this. We also do […]
I hate conflict, but sometimes it’s inevitable. Has your kid ever come home from school and told you something about the teacher that you’ve found questionable? Perhaps the teacher said something strange or you disagree with how a problem was handled. Whatever the case, you are concerned. Here’s how to handle the potential conflict in the least drama filled way. As a former teacher, I loved it when parents called with concerns. Sure, at first my stomach dropped down to my feet when I realized they were calling with an issue, but ultimately I appreciated that they came to me with the problem. For instance, one school year, my class did a science experiment where we observed the effects of moisture on bread. Yep, we watched mold grow. I had a few rowdy boys in my class that year. One afternoon, one child opened up their ziploc baggie full of moldy bread and taunted his partner with it. I told him, in a rather ominous voice, that you shouldn’t breath in mold spores as they could be dangerous to your health. I oversimplified because I wanted him to stop opening his bag. Unbeknownst to me, a very sweet student had also opened her bag to look inside. That night, she panicked to her mother that she breathed in mold and would now get very sick and die. Thankfully, mom picked up the phone and called me to find out what happened in class. Mom was concerned, but once I explained the situation, she understood. I talked to the student the next day about my reasons for making the comment, how she wouldn’t die and all was well. I’m thankful her mom called because we were able to deal with the situation quickly and efficiently. Pinpoint exactly what concerns you Personality clashes happen. If someone rubs me wrong way, but I can’t pinpoint a specific issue, I just let it be. It’s impossible to get along with everybody, all the time (as much as I would like to because I am definitely a people pleaser). However, if you can say to yourself, “I really don’t like that the teacher did this because it impacts how my child learns in the classroom,” you definitely have a cause for concern and you should address it. Mainly, because it’s probably a miscommunication that can be cleared up quickly. Call the teacher Here’s where most people stop. I say to call the teacher, not send an email or note. So many good intentions get lost in the written word. When you talk to someone, you can hear concern, respect and kindness when you discuss problems. Whenever I read about a problem in an email, all I can hear is anger and blame. To start the conversation, I would simply say in my friendliest voice, “Hi Mrs. Smith, it’s JoAnn, Susie’s mom, how are you?” and then “Hey, I’m calling because Susie told me (insert problem here)” I then pause because usually the teacher has additional insight into […]