Why You’re Still the Default Parent (And The 7 Rules that Got Me Out)

If you’re carrying the mental load and wondering how to stop being the default parent, this episode is for you.

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Nobody sits down and decides to become the default parent. It happens one “I’ll just grab it” at a time. In this solo episode, I share the seven rules I follow so I’m not the default parent in my house, from the “go ask Dad” rule I started when my kids were little to the overflowing trash I refuse to take out.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why being the default parent is a set of habits, not a personality trait
• How to end the “I do everything” fight by seeing the real split in your house
• Why doing your partner’s jobs to be nice backfires, and what to say instead
• The simple “go ask Dad” rule that retrains your kids
• Why “it’s just easier if I do it” is a trap, and how to let your partner do it his way

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Home Responsibility Calculator (free): see the real split in your house
• Skylight Calendar: $30 off the 15-inch calendar #ad #sponsored
• The Fair Play Deck by Eve Rodsky
• The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn
• No Guilt Mom on Instagram: come tell me your calculator results

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