Why You Spiral When Someone Calls You Disrespectful (And What Their Words Really Mean)

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Has someone ever told you that you made them feel disrespected or small, and your stomach just dropped? Maybe you replayed every conversation trying to find the moment you did it. Today JoAnn walks you through three actionable steps to work through that moment, rooted in the psychology of why accusations like this happen, especially between the people closest to you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to check your own intentions after being accused of something, without spiraling into shame
• Why an accusation from someone close to you is often a report on their own identity, not a fact about your behavior
• The research on why confidence and success from women gets read differently than the same behavior from men
• Three steps to decide how you want to respond, including when it’s okay to take space

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• The Tallest Poppy Survey (2023)
• The “Acting Wife” study on women and self-silencing in MBA programs
• Amanda’s story about setting boundaries with in-laws
• The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn
• The Happy Mom Reset, free class

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