Why You Can’t Forgive Yourself (And How to Finally Let Go) with Dr. Dravon James
If you’ve ever dealt with mom guilt and wondered why you can’t stop replaying the same mistake in your head long after it happened, this episode is for you.
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Dr. Dravon James, founder of Everyday Peace and author of Forgiveness: A Pathway to Happiness, joins JoAnn to talk about why self-forgiveness is so much harder for moms than forgiving anyone else. They walk through Dravon’s three-step practice for actually letting go of the mistakes you keep carrying, plus the exact language to use with yourself when you mess up.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why holding onto guilt doesn’t actually protect you from making the same mistake again
- The three-step self-forgiveness practice: reflect on self-criticism, forgive yourself for past mistakes, and release the memory’s hold
- The difference between accepting what happened and excusing it
- The “sandwich technique” for saying “I forgive you” to yourself without it feeling forced
- Why treating yourself the way you’d treat your own middle schooler changes everything
Ready to stop doing everything and start doing what actually matters? Grab JoAnn’s free Stop Doing Checklist.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- Dr. Dravon James’s website
- Dr. Dravon James on Instagram
- Dr. Dravon James on Facebook
- Grab the free Stop Doing Checklist
- Join the No Guilt Mom Inner Circle
- The Best Mom is a Happy Mom (JoAnn’s book)
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