The yelling over whose turn it is to load the dishwasher.
The screaming about who said what and how that sibling is "the worst brother EVER," a jerk and not being fair.
The fighting over insignificant things like how one took the other's LEGO set six months ago and "Oh-my-gosh" it still matters now.
Your kids constantly come to you to solve their problems from whose turn it is to watch TV to "She called me a baby!"
Can we start a mom nap time that lasts all afternoon?
"Oh my gosh, why can't they just along and stop fighting?"
Your kids seem to love each other one moment. Then, five minutes later you hear screaming, "you're the worst brother EVER!!!"
You feel like you're going to snap.
Noise cancelling headphones, anyone? The fighting makes your brain hurt... and you're feeling like the referee in a WWE fight.
You try to keep their fights civil, but there's a chance they might ignore you and dropkick each other.
I have two kids - a 12-year-old girl and a 7-year-old boy.
My son still screams at his sister, "You're the worst sister EVER!"
My daughter tells her brother what to do, what NOT to do and how to do it... which drives him crazy!
And me... I frequently feel caught in the middle. I want the screaming to stop. I want them to love on each other and get along.
But that's not how sibling relationships work.
It's more important for kids to name their own feelings, communicate those clearly, and problem solve to a solution, together.
I taught this process to my kids that I honed through my experience as an elementary school teacher.
Whenever they have a disagreement, they first cool-down and then launch into a conversation about how they feel and what they need from the other.
Let's make this happen for your family!
"My 7 and 9-year-old loved it! They were giggling the entire time. Both liked giving the kind notes to each other. They made a game to hide it and the other sibling would find it."
- Sheila -
Identify their own feelings so they become aware of why they’re mad - and what they can do to calm these feelings.
Learn how to deal with those self defeating thoughts that make them believe they can't get along with their sibling.
Learn positive thinking to get them through the fights.
Share positive thoughts and appreciation for their sibling.
Learn to set and effectively communicate healthy boundaries with others.
Communicate how they feel to their sibling and problem solve the solution.
"The S.I.B. Journal helps my boys feel more empowered to say no in a positive way and know it's not going to
cause a huge melodramatic reaction."
- Laurie -
How do you make your kids use this system? These teacher-led video lessons from JoAnn do just that.
We got you covered with our interactive video series that engage your kids, make them laugh and best of all....
Have another adult teaching the material so your kids won't argue back and forth with you about what to do!
Start on the S.I.B. Journal immediately! This full-colored, vibrant, step-by-step and fun process that teaches kids:
Know exactly what your kids are learning and how it will benefit their future in our parent guide.
Two full-colored, 80 page printed spiral bound copies of the S.I.B. Journal delivered to your door.
Free shipping to all U.S. addresses. International shipping is available for an additional fee.
"We're struggling with our child saying she's a bad person. The shame monster is a really reliable way to show how shame applies to kids, and not just adults."
- Tressa -
"JoAnn is an excellent teacher -- funny, engaging, and easy to understand. She became my daughter's ally, rather than just another adult telling her to focus."
- Ruth Soukup, host of "Do it Scared' and founder of Living Well Spending Less -
These are crazy times. In this uncertainty, comes one small blessing: we're spending more time with our families. However, that has its challenges.
Our kids are around each other 24/7 and have taken their sibling fighting to new creative heights. I get it. I feel it, too.
As a mom and former elementary school teacher, I know that the most successful kids have excellent conflict resolution skills. But how do we teach these skills as parents -especially when it feels our kids never stop arguing with each other?
That's what the S.I.B. Journal system will help you do! We're going to teach your kids how to deal with strong emotions and resolve fights with their siblings in a calm way.
For the creation of this journal, we sought expert guidance. The following professionals contributed their feedback and knowledge to the creation of the S.I.B. Journal.
Dr. Bravo is an internationally recognized relationship expert and the founder of the BRAVOEffect and Parentworx Counseling and Consulting, and author of The BRAVO Effect: Strategies for Parenting Extreme Teens releasing in early 2021.
In her practice, she helps families heal from trauma and build strong, connected and healthy relationships.
Miguel has 28 years of experience working with families and their children under 5 years old. He takes an Early Childhood Mental Health focus while creating positive relationships between family members and education.
Miguel holds a Master's degree in Education with a specialty in TVI (Teacher for the Visually impaired).
Danielle Purcell graduated from North Carolina Central University with a B.A. in Psychology and obtained her M.Ed. in School Counseling from Wake Forest University.
She has enjoyed serving families in the school setting for close to two decades.
"I was on a webinar today where JoAnn offered me some advice about how to work with a 3rd grader I was tutoring. I asked him a few questions and then let him take control. It worked miraculously better than our old, "What do you want to do first?" 'Nothing" method.
I'm sure we'll have our challenging days sometimes, but JoAnn's method is a game-changer."
- Elisa -
The S.I.B. journal is a teaching tool and system for kids ages 6 to 12-years-old to communicate with each other. Here’s how it works:
You get 2 copies of the printed S.I.B. Journal for your kids to complete. The journal contains fun, educational, and interactive activities that will lead them step-by-step on how to explain their own feelings to this sibling.
Your kids will learn the names to use for their feelings as well as:
It's designed for kids ages 6-12 who frequently fight with their siblings - basically, every sibling relationship.
After using the S.I.B. Journal, kids will be more aware of:
Within 5 minutes of placing your order, you'll receive an email from me with all your login details for the online content.
Once you login, you have immediate access to the digital journal as well as the online materials.
The printed copies of the journal typically arrive within 10 business days of the order.
I have full confidence that it’s going to help your kids communicate better with each other without the fighting, tantrums or name-calling.
I’m also here to fully support you to get that calm home you really want.
That's why I've included the interactive video series for kids to explain the journal and get them excited as well as a parent guide for you so you'll know how to support them throughout the journal, as well as how to react when they fight.
We created the journal system with all kids in mind.
The videos in the "Kids Interactive Journal" are short, bite sized chunks of information.
There are several short, fun and interactive games in the journal for the kids to do together as well.
Your purchase comes with 2 copies fo the journal, but you can purchase additional copies for only $15 each!
No system works unless you follow through with it, but we are confident that if your kids complete the S.I.B. Journal system, you will see positive results in the way your kids communicate with each other and with you.
That said, if your kids complete the course work and for any reason are not completely satisfied, simply email [email protected] within 30 days of your purchase and we will refund your purchase - minus the value of the 2 nonrefundable, spiral-bound S.I.B. Journals - no questions asked.